“It’s only words & words are all I have to take your heart away”.
This song of BoyZone (an Irish boy band) always touches the right chords of my heart & my life as well.
I have been trying to make this mantra my way of life, hope you all second my thought & equally pitch in to do the same.
Skillful use of language is fundamental & of utmost importance in stimulating higher thoughts. Since thought is the springboard of action, let’s make some apt changes when we talk or communicate.
There’s a simple way out…
Sincerely try to avoid harsh & strong sounding words which might give you the idea of being frank but could be heart-wrenching to someone, we can’t be frank at the cost of running someone’s day or jeopardizing someone’s self-esteem. Instead of saying, ‘He is BAD’, which is a very strong word & it could instill hatred in you to an extent of ruining your own mental peace, try saying, “His behaviour/action is not so good and is not acceptable”.
Another one would be, rather saying “You misbehaved me”, which is an immensely direct straight way of pointing finger at someone, you can help him/her by saying, “I didn’t quite like your way of behaving”. Never shoot at the person rather focus on the behaviour or the words that are being used by the person. In this way, we become sensible enough in weighing a situation with proper understanding. We also become polished & gentle in our behaviour towards others & save our skin from any awkward situation for that matter. So, we must continue to learn, grow & contribute to the world community at large through our words at least.